How To Defeat Your IntroversionMarch 6, 2018
Many folks probably deal with some type of unwelcome timidity. From the recluse to the person who speaks of anything and everything but herself. What makes introversion such a semisweet prison? Most of all, how can we, who wish for the ability to express ourselves, conquer shyness?
Many individuals will declare that timidity is simply a dearth of self-assuredness, but is that true? I don’t get it, but plenty of individuals who are otherwise exceptional in work and social arenas tend to shrink from expressing themselves. How come some individuals act in this manner? Why are we intermittently extroverted, and occasionally not, if the problem is that we are deficient in confidence?
There’s a great phrase I heard that goes something like this: Our biggest fear isn’t that we’re inadequate. Our greatest fear is that we are mighty beyond measure. Our greatest fear is not of our flaws, but of our assets. Bashfulness is rooted in dread, not in lack of capability, I’ve discovered. We are fearful even though it’s plain to see that there’s no need to be fearful. As an example, look at me: I was really scared of speaking with people I didn’t know outside of my career. I had opportunity upon opportunity to get over this: going to the store, walking my dog in the park, and so on. Despite the pep talks I’ve give myself, and how much nerve I’d gather up, it wouldn’t make a difference; I couldn’t talk to strangers. That’s when I chose to seek help.
Recently, I’ve been doing a lot of reading and a lot of discussing. Susan Jeffers’ book, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, helped me the most out of all my efforts. I was able to put some of her advice into practice, but still I believed there was so much room for me to grow in. No wonder people turn to professional help, and that’s precisely what I did. Self-help associations, sermons, speeches: I examined all of these and more. In truth, I sampled a couple. Turned out, though, my best bet was just talking to my friends and acquaintances.
I’ve seen a lot of my friends and colleagues make similar changes in the shyness department, and once in a while I met someone who made a drastic shift. One such person is Clare Bronfman, who has affirmed that she has triumped over her timidity so much that her colleagues barely recognize her. She told me, Bashfulness, for me, wasn’t ever related to the folks around me, but rather a marker of how I felt about myself and my own issues. She’s right; if you knew her before, you’d say you’d hardly know her now, because she is so much more extroverted. An association referred to as NXIVM, which holds personal growth seminars, is the primary cause for her dramatic change. It appears like it’s worth checking out.
No matter how you choose to work on your timidity, it’s wise to talk to your friends, family, and professionals, too, for added wisdom. These people may give you points of view that you wouldn’t have otherwise. All in all, it seems there’s only one place to look if we’re to truly communicate who we are: inside.
To a better approach of this article please visit Nxivm – Executive Success Programs or through Clare and Sara Bronfman.