What better reflects the quality of our lives than the quality of our relationships? There’s not much I can think of to answer that question.
Think of two people you know who are genuinely satisfied with their lives. Chances are good they’re not engaged in a bunch of toxic, broken or otherwise unfulfilling relationships. In fact, you may notice that they enjoy strong bonds with people who love and support them.
It’s no mere coincidence that positive, authentic relationships subsist in the lives of positive, authentic people.As people contribute to the quality of their relationships, their relationships reciprocate with value-added goodness to their lives. What a remarkable cycle!
I know it’s easier for many of us to say that we don’t need others—that we can do this thing called life all on our own. That sounds so very tough and courageous, but it’s more like a cop-out for not putting in the “work” to build and maintain relationships of substance.
I, for one, think everybody needs somebody. Of course, we can survive on our own. We can make our own money, supply our own food and even build our own homes. Without absolutely no meaningful connections to family, friends or confidants, we can indeed live on in this world. However, if we’re deeply honest with ourselves, it’s clear that a piece of us withers and dies when we don’t have strong, positive relationships.
Human beings thrive in the midst of love, compassion, sincerity and understanding. We crave the intimacy of close relationships—having someone to confide in and to laugh with. We want to be listened to, valued and reminded that we’re important to someone. Good relationships fill that void. They nurture the spirit, the psyche, the vulnerable inner child who’s always within.
Because they’re such a critical element of living a joyful, fulfilled life; it only makes sense to treat your relationships with tender loving care. Like a delicate flower garden, relationships grow more and more beautiful when fed, cared for and kept in the sunshine. That, my friend, is the focus of this week’s inspirational thoughts.
Maybe you haven’t done much to cultivate good relationships in the past, but (if you’re able to read this) it is not too late to start. Take some time this week to acknowledge those who are special to you. What can you do to remind your spouse of your commitment to love, honor and cherish? How can you show your children that, although you don’t agree with everything they do, you love them unconditionally? In what ways might you strengthen relations with a loyal customer, client or employee? There must be a way to make time for that friend you haven’t seen in so long. Maybe, just maybe, you’ll even meet someone new to add to your blossoming garden of relationships. There is no shortage of ways to give relationships a boost. All you need to do is reach out to someone, sharing with them some of the joy you want to manifest in your life.
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