Many people feel that if they could just stop doing a behavior or start doing another behavior, they would be more successful. There is always something in ourselves, that we know we could do better. Perhaps, making better choices would lead to a higher level of satisfaction where distractions would not so easily sidetrack us from our goals. Once we realize that, yes, making better choices is the root of the problem, we become excited at the prospect of solving it just by realizing the need to do it. Time passes. On some days, we actually do make better choices and reap the rewards. On other days, we do not make good choices, and things slip back to where they were. What happened?
How could the intention of making better choices go so wrong? It sounds like a very good thing to try and accomplish. It has potential in improving our future. It would improve our present circumstances. We are definitely committed until something else comes along. So, what really happened? Breaking down the sequence of steps to managing change may shed some light on what went wrong with the intention of making better choices.
One of the main reasons people fail in managing changes is because they really are not committed to making the change. They feel like they “should” make the change but really want to get by with what they are currently doing. To get past these feelings, make a list of the benefits you will get by making the change. This sets your mind on the improvement and not the level of difficulty.
Another key reason people fail in managing changes is because there is no action plan to succeed. In other words, realizing the need to change is not enough to make things happen. In order to make better choices a reality, the kinds of choices you want to improve will help you focus on what temptations you want to avoid in order to make the better choice. Write down which choices and which temptations to avoid.
Yet another key reason people fail in managing changes is because they give up too early. Realize that it takes about 30 days to form a new habit. Give yourself time to practice the above steps you outlined. Review those steps on a daily basis. It is the practicing that forms the new behavior and sustains that change over time. Celebrate your successes by congratulating yourself or rewarding yourself to anchor small victories in the overall change.
Remember, you attract what you focus on. If your focus is on failing to realize your goal, you will attract failure. If your focus is on succeeding through an action plan applied over at least 30 days, you will attract a much higher degree of success. Personal improvement is yours to keep.
Helen Ewing is a Business & Personal Coach with over 20 years Manufacturing Industry experience in the Materials Management arena. I provide successful methods that solve problems in less time, with less money and with less effort through Coaching for Businesses and Professionals. I invite you for a visit at, http://1ewingroup.com