Techniques to Reframe Your BrainMarch 19, 2020
Here are some of the techniques I’ve used through the years to destroy the self-doubt that a negative frame of the world creates. First, it’s helpful to realize that all of us go through a learning curve. There are four stages to learning and you will go through all four in learning how to reframe and reweave your thought patterns. 1. Unconscious Incompetence–This is when you don’t know what you don’t know. For this woman, it never occurred to her to pay attention to her patterns of thought and to walk through them to see if her concerns were valid or were they False Expectations Appearing Real. 2. Conscious Incompetence–This is where most of you are now after reading this far into the book. You understand some of the roots of your self-doubt and are learning how to eliminate them. Reading about them brings them to your conscious level, but knowing and doing are not the same. Learning is experiential and that begins at the next stage. 3. Conscious Competence–At this stage you know what to do, but you have to think about it to do it. Reframing and reweaving your thought patterns requires you constantly monitor your thinking and responses to situations and then think them through to make sure they are valid concerns. 4. Unconscious Competence–This where I want you to get to as fast as you can. At this level, you have been practicing reframing to the point where it happens without you having to think about it. Like driving a car, the actions and reactions take place on an sub-conscious level and are as natural as your current patterns of thinking are now. You’ve completely replaced your negative framing that seeded your self-doubt with a more positive, possibility frame of thinking that releases your potential and fuels your growth into being a happier, more successful person. Understanding these levels is important because it helps you to develop patience and understanding for your progress in any endeavor, including reframing and reweaving your patterns of thought. This helps you monitor your progress in this and anything else you try to learn. When you don’t have a way to measure your progress, it’s easy to get frustrated. Frustration, over time, leads to self-doubt, which often prevents you from even trying anything new. Again, why play the game if I’m just going to lose again. This progressive learning curve allows you to set reasonable short-term goals and enjoy the satisfaction of hitting them. For instance, reading this article brings these concepts of programming, self-talk, self-image, patterns of thought and reframing to your consciousness when maybe you never thought much about any of them before. That takes you instantly from stage one to stage two. Hopefully, this article will motivate you to practice reframing your patterns of thought, which will move you to level three. Congratulations! Now, with practice you are on your way to level four. The same principle applies to every area of your life that you are trying to improve. Most people expect to start at level four and then get frustrated and quit when it doesn’t happen right away. These levels work as short-term goals that allow you to recognize and describe your progress at any time. Certainly, it’s my goal with this book to help you destroy self-doubt so you can give yourself a chance to do better at anything you choose. Using these levels as a progress check will help you a great deal. Have no doubt that you will encounter some speed bumps along the way. You will no doubt stumble and fall short occasionally and that’s fine. It’s better to be in the race than on the sidelines. Let’s just make sure you frame the effort in the best way possible. For instance, you decide that you are going to increase your income because you have significantly destroyed your self-doubt and are in the conscious competence level of learning how to sell a new product or service. You make a call on a client and you don’t get the sale. As you drive away, most people would think, “What did I do wrong?” or “I messed that one up.” This kind of framing tends to carry some emotion with it. It’s hard to imagine messing up or doing something wrong and not attaching a negative feeling to it. I want you to learn from the experience, but leave the emotion in the past. Instead of “What did I do wrong,” frame the review this way, “What will I do differently next time?” This puts your mind into the future where your next sale is going to come from and pulls the lesson learned from the missed sale, but leaves the emotion in the past. We strip the emotion from negative experiences and take the lesson with us into the future. This makes your speed bumps as valuable as any lesson learned along the way.
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