Money was a source of great stress in my family. In order for me to learn how to attract money into my life and make it grow, I had to study the habits of wealthy people. I had to learn what the difference is between how an ambitious person views money and how a poor person views money. Then, in time, I learned to adapt the patterns of thought of ambitious and wealthy people as my own patterns. If you want to be wealthy, learn to think and act like wealthy people think and act.
The key to improving your patterns of thought is to first recognize how you currently view certain areas of your life. Here’s an exercise to help you match what you intellectually believe about some important areas of life with your patterns of behavior.
1. Write down your beliefs on the following subjects (you can add other topics if you wish):
c. Risk Taking
2. Write down the evidence that your behavior supports that belief. For instance, if you say that you feel exercise is important to your life and happiness and your evidence that your behavior supports that belief is that you exercise at least a few times a week, then your behavior and belief are congruent. If you believe that money is an important tool to creating freedom and security for you and your family, write down the evidence that you have been saving your money and/or paying down debt. Or that you have taken every opportunity to increase your income while lowering your expenses.
3. Look for instances where there is either an inconsistency between your stated belief and your actions or where your belief is causing you trouble in a particular area of life. If you say eating is a way to stay healthy, but you are eating a quart of ice cream each night, your belief is not consistent with your patterns. You’re not clear on your belief. You might think, intellectually, that food is to keep you healthy, but your true belief, as reflected in your patterns of thought and behavior are that you view food is a source of pleasure and comfort. That is a belief that will lead to overeating and one that you will want to work on modifying.
Here is an example using some of my current beliefs:
Write down your beliefs on the following subjects. I’ve inserted mine as an example.:
a. Money – Money is an important tool to creating freedom and security
b. Success – Success is my birthright and drives me to fulfill my potential
c. Risk Taking – Risk Taking is necessary on all levels in order to grow
d. Relationships – Relationships are critically important in life
e. Exercise – Exercise is like showering to me. I don’t feel good if I miss a day
f. Eating – Eating is mostly for nutrition, but sometimes for fun
a. I save at least 20% of my income and have for two decades
b. Each decade I have pushed myself to new challenges that have the potential to bring higher income and acclaim
c. From writing a book, to stepping on stage, or launching a business, I put myself out there on a regular basis
d. I have a tendency to isolate myself. This is where my self-doubt has haunted me. Intellectually, I understand the importance of relationships. My patterns of thought and behavior are not supporting that as much as I would like, though they are getting much better. This is also the area that I will risk the least so I am working on improving this important area.
e. I train most everyday and am in excellent shape. I use a personal trainer twice a week to make sure I’m being pushed harder than I would have pushed myself.
f. Since learning how to eat as a young martial artist, I avoid fatty, sugary foods and keep a simple goal of keeping my calorie intake reasonably low. If I have to cut weight, I lower my calories and increase my training.
This exercise works as a reality check to make sure you are “walking your talk.”
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