Understanding What Is Possible

In a dream world, every little boy who dreams of being a fighter pilot eventually becomes one, and every little girl gets to take her turn centre stage as the prima Ballerina. Yet the key word here is ‘dream’; unfortunately, save for a lucky few of extremely talented individuals who give their lives to achieving their goal, this never happens. As children, it’s okay to dream, there’s no need for realism and we can sit back and dream of the super-cool sky fights or bouquet of flowers on opening night. Dreaming of the impossible is all what childhood is about.

It isn’t, however, what adulthood is about. Adulthood is about realising that some things aren’t possible. This might sound like a ridiculously simple sentiment, but it’s something a worrying amount of people fail to grasp.

In truth, it’s easy to see why, and the blame does not lay solely at the feet of the individual. In modern society, we’re foisted the idea of the ‘can do!’ attitude. If you want something, you’re encouraged to get it – and worry about the consequences later. When we can turn back time’s effect on the body and spend money without actually having it, a lot of people fail to see why they can’t have it all. These are the people that quit their jobs to form a band and six months later, with no money and no home, still say it was worth it, because they lived their dream. It wasn’t worth it, and a full five years on, those people have seen the light and just refer to their band period as ‘The Embarrassing Incident’.

The biggest key to self improvement is to understand, and accept, your limits. You may still dream of being a fighter pilot, but to achieve true contentment you need to see that it isn’t going to happen. Instead, when embarking on a course of self improvement, see what you realistically can change. Maybe pay off your mortgage early or give more to charity – obtainable goals are the key, and through them and not their flight-of-fancy counterparts, you will see your life improve.